When breakups happen moms are set up to fail.
- Women earn less than men, yet are expected to provide for the children in the same capacity as men.
- Many women are often the ones that leave the workforce to manage household duties and care for children while married. Should we start putting a price tag on the financial contributions made by women who choose to leave the workforce and manage the home?
- Childcare is not split 50/50. Moms end up caring for the children a lot more than men, which results in more expenses on their end. All while earning less than men.
- Many times, men stop supporting their children leaving women with the bulk of the financial responsibility.
I understand that there are men who do have primary custody of the children. I understand that there are many dads that put their kids’ needs first following a break up. I know one. I know a dad who left the family home so that his ex-wife and kids didn’t have to move. But, lets keep it real. This is not the case in most break-ups. Most single moms I know are dealing with dad’s who don’t contribute enough. They also don’t pay child support consistently. Taking these dad’s to court is costly for moms. They already are dealing with enough expenses so some just take on the extra responsibility and are grateful when a payment of any amount comes through.
Let’s not stay stuck here. These are changes that need to happen in order to create equity for moms after breakups.
Have a healthy co-parenting relationship with your ex
Develop a 50/50 custody arrangement
Let go of resentments
Get to know yourself again and make a note of your strengths in order to get started with building your new life
Have an abundance mindset
Find communities of support for your new situation
Read articles, blogs, books that are uplifting and positive
Know that you are capable of creating the life of your dreams for you and your children
Regardless of what is happening, if moms believe that they can succeed, they will. Focus on getting you to a place of peace and prosperity. Do your part in making this happen.
First focus on creating positive energy around you. Create a positive co-parenting relationship with your ex. Get a mediator if necessary.
Create a situation where you have time to build your rich life. Fight for the 50/50 custody arrangement so that you don’t have to lose sleep and feel alone in your parenting and professional journey.
Breaking up is hard. You need to surround yourself with people that have been there or who have come out on top. People that are where you want to be.
Most importantly, get started right away on building yourself back up. Do nice things for yourself. Feed your body and soul with information that is useful for getting to where you want to be.
Children are not an excuse for being poor. They are the reason for wanting to be rich. As parents, we want to provide our children with great opportunities, safe environments, and resources to help them grow. Two-parent households are not the norm anymore. Being rich as a single person is slowly becoming common. Children are part of our success journey.
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