Inspired by House of Gucci
The movie showed us what we see too often, people giving up their freedom for power and money. Yes, we need money to survive and pay for our daily essentials, but when is it enough? I recently published a blog post stating that the amount needed to reach happiness was around $100,000. Any amount over that wouldn’t increase happiness by much if anything at all.
In House of Gucci, the young newlywed couple, Patrizia and Maurizio, were happy.
Prior to their marriage, Maurizio’s father did warn him about Patrizia who had an eye for nice things. It was clear that she was intrigued by the quiet and shy Maurizio when he told her his last name.
Patrizia did not grow up poor. Her father owned a trucking business. She married Maurizio Gucci who stated that he was not interested in joining the family business. After marrying and working at her father’s company, Maurizio told Patrizia that he was the happiest he had ever been.
When the couple first met, he was unhappy and lonely. Meeting her and seeing her love of life broke him out of his shell. After they got married, his family continued to ask him to join the business, even getting Patrizia involved in the recruitment. Maurizio continued to tell Patrizia that he had no desire to work for Gucci.
Patrizia, seeing the wealth that the family had, pushed him until he relented and joined Gucci’s administrative offices.
After that, she did things to hurt members of his family that had welcomed her with open arms. Going so far as framing family members in order to make room for her husband’s continued growth in the company.
She felt that because she encouraged her husband to join the family business and helped him rise to the top that she was also part of the business. She felt entitled to give her opinion and tried shaming Maurizio into taking the business in the direction that she wanted. Maurizio was quick to let her know that she had no say.
Eventually, her greediness and verbal abuse pushed him away and he left her.
She was devastated and shocked. Her anger pushed her to hire someone to murder Maurizio.
This is a horrible situation that has happened many times when power and money are put before wellbeing and happiness.
How can it be avoided?
While dating, when partners feel that their relationship is getting serious they should talk about what they value as a couple. Do they value money, family, quality time, simple things in life, luxuries, yearly vacations, careers, peace, slowness, no stress, etc… After they have identified and written down what they value, couples should always refer back to these items. All decisions affecting the household should align with what is written on that list.
Values should be reviewed on a yearly basis. It is okay if they change, but partners should be in agreement.
If Maurizio and Patrizia would have had this conversation, perhaps things would have ended differently for both. Maybe they would have never gotten married.
What do you value in your home or relationship? Do you live by those values? How so?